Saturday, December 31, 2011

This Week With the Mommies

Check out all the fun events our mommies have lined up to start off 2012! For details and to RSVP, visit the calendar. We look forward to seeing you soon!

Monday, 1/2: 

Mocha Monday coffee meetup at Earth Fare in Greensboro 
Moms on the Clock family night at Moe's in Greensboro

Thursday, 1/5:
Music and Movement at Walkertown Public Library in Kernersville
Meet and greet at Krispy Kreme in Greensboro



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Thursday, December 29, 2011

A New Year’s Revolution

Are you a tired mom? Have you lost the desire to battle endless crowds of people whose clothes do not have baby spit or peanut butter on them just to count down from 10? Is a clean pillowcase more appealing than a midnight kiss? Prefer warm pajamas to a cocktail dress and toe-pinching heels? Well, I have an idea that's going to revolutionize the Dec. 31–Jan. 1 transition for you.

We here on the East Coast of the United States are not, in fact, the first people to see the calendar page flip. Billions of people in lands to our east beat us to it. Now is the time for solidarity, my friends!

This year, I am going to select a city in some foreign land and adopt their new year celebration as my own. I'm not so much an early bird that I plan join those first people at 5 a.m., local time. But perhaps I'll join my sister in Korea and swing a noisemaker around 10 in the morning. If I'm feeling particularly festive, I'll throw in a countdown with Londoners after dinnertime. Maybe I'll pop a cracker with my kids for each waking hour.

So join the revolution! Pick an hour. Count down. Ring a bell. Kiss someone special. Act like a fool for a few minutes. It doesn't matter when we celebrate or how. The important thing to remember is that while hordes of sweaty people get sprayed with champagne, we'll be snuggled up cozy, comfy, and warm in our own beds when that clock strikes midnight.

— Ashley (00tedsgirl) is the proudly frazzled mom of two beautiful kids. Between cutthroat games of Chutes and Ladders and spontaneous dance parties, she spends too much time on TriadMommies to keep up a regular blog.


Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Wordless Wednesday: Hanukkah

Photo by Angel (ethansemi)
Monday, December 26, 2011

Joyous Kwanzaa!

TriadMommies wishes you and yours a Joyous Kwanzaa!
Sunday, December 25, 2011

Merry Christmas from TriadMommies!

We at TriadMommies wish you a happy, healthy Christmas Day!
Friday, December 23, 2011

This Week With the Mommies

Check out all the fun events our mommies have lined up next week! For details and to RSVP, visit the calendar. We look forward to seeing you soon!

Monday, 12/26: 

Mocha Monday coffee meetup at Earth Fare in Greensboro
Moms on the Clock family night at Moe's in Greensboro


Friday, 12/30:
New Year's with Big Bang Boom at the Greensboro Children's Museum

Saturday, 12/31:
New Year's party for kids in Greensboro




Thursday, December 22, 2011

Travel With Kids

Over the river and through the woods: This time of year is full of busyness. It seems there's always somewhere to go. If you are like me, your calendar is full of entries like the following: get tree, buy presents, see Santa, holiday party, family dinner, Tanglewood, church, other family dinner. And unless you have a full-time, live-in nanny who works for free, you probably have to take your kids with you to most of these things. With growing crowds in stores, pews, and roads, here are a few ideas to keep your kids safe and yourself sane in the hubbub of the holidays.

1. Be willing to trade. When I was a kid, my mom would send us to the neighbors' house when she needed to run errands on her own. It was a reciprocal program with no one keeping score. There was no cosmic tally sheet of who watched whose kids more hours. In fact, a retired couple was usually available to watch soaps with us kids when parents weren’t around. If a childcare trade isn't your style, or you live next to the Munsters, you still have trade options. You can search for a babysitter willing to barter with you. As a last resort, you can just have an unspoken trade agreement with all the other harried moms out there: If you bring the wrong kids home, you'll care for them at least as well as your own until it can all get straightened out.

2. Label everything. Maybe you dress your entire family in the same outfit, so it's easy to spot each other in the toy aisles. Perhaps you tattoo your address on your child's forehead, should they stray. You could just make a phone number bracelet with elastic string and number beads, or slap a Band-Aid on baby’s back.

3. Practice attachment parenting. Grab a carrier and tote your tot wherever you go, or buckle them into a stroller. Older children can still be kept close with the clever use of a straitjacket and leash. Bungees and/or Gorilla Glue are cheaper alternatives for the thrifty mom willing to do a little extra work, like contesting all those pesky DSS reports.

4. Arrive late with lousy presents. This is a long-term plan but is quite effective. If you disregard people's plans and tastes enough, they'll stop inviting you to their shindigs. Even your family will quash the invites if you give enough stale fruitcakes. They might also block you on Facebook and ignore your calls, but you’ll won't be fighting any crowds to see them again.

5. Plan ahead. Erect a tree a la Charlie Brown. Buy all your gifts by June 25. Who doesn’t need a new tube of sunblock in December? Grandma will adore the originality of a new bikini top in her stocking! Not only should you complete all shopping early, but you should also arrive at every event at least an hour early. Your kids will be so wiggly by the time service starts that no one will want to sit in your pew.

— Ashley (00tedsgirl) is the proudly frazzled mom of two beautiful kids. Between cutthroat games of Chutes and Ladders and spontaneous dance parties, she spends too much time on TriadMommies to keep up a regular blog.



Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Weaning Her

When I started exclusively pumping, I thought it would be temporary. I had been trying desperately to rebuild a supply since Evie was a few weeks old. She had never nursed productively, and we were getting by with an SNS and donor milk. But when we started treatment for thrush, Evie began refusing the breast completely. 

Even worse, she wouldn’t take a bottle, either, so I was stuck pumping around the clock and dropper-feeding a 3 month old every two hours. I would try to latch her on, to no avail and much frustration. I tried everything I could think of to encourage her to nurse again, but eventually we gave up and I settled for having an exclusively breastmilk–fed baby if not a fed-at-the-breast baby.  By her 6-month birthday, we had used the last of our donor milk, and I celebrated finally having enough of a supply to match her demand. By the 10-month mark, I was actually putting my own milk in the freezer. 
Everyone expected me to stop pumping at her first birthday, but February came, and Evie was still relying heavily on my milk for her daily nutrition. She was a very poor eater, and even her pediatrician said that if she weren't getting my milk, she'd need toddler formula. We hadn't come that far only to give her formula as a 1 year old. So I kept pumping. I weaned off the medications and herbs I was taking, and I did lose some of my supply, but I was still able to keep her happily gaining weight as we moved through her second year. 

In August, I finally quit getting up at night to pump, a move my La Leche League companions know was long in coming. Again, my supply suffered, but at 18 months old, Evie was willing to make up the difference with a little moo juice. I also resumed a full-time teaching position at the end of August and had to limit my pumping to only five sessions a day. 

The same week classes resumed, I developed an abscess in my right breast, next to the nipple. The doctor who drained it told me the pain on that side would be too unbearable and that I would dry up before I could resume pumping. He told me that I should consider myself finished, that I had gone on for too long anyway, and that Evie didn't need my milk anymore. Oddly, instead of using the episode as a valid reason to quit, I took his words as a challenge and continued pumping, though the supply from the affected breast has never fully recovered.

As we moved through the fall, even my most ardent supporters began to question when I would stop pumping. I would say that my goal was to be done by her second birthday and that I would start weaning myself off the pump in December. Being very prone to plugged ducts, I wanted to take it very slowly. As December approached, I began to consider my weaning plan. As I pondered which sessions to shorten, how long between alterations, and how to reshuffle the schedule, I kept thinking about how much milk I was going to lose. I would think, I can’t cut down that session; that’s when I get the most milk, and I'd have to remind myself that the whole point of what I was planning was to ultimately lose my milk. All my milk. The milk that I had worked so hard to get. The milk that I had extracted from my poor, battered breasts for almost two years, whose procurement had become the guiding force in my life. The milk that had nourished my baby. The milk that only I could give her. This was going to be hard.

I want to wear real bras again, ones that don't have slits over the nipples, and to stop worrying about portable refrigeration. I want to be able to take a cough drop and to fall asleep next to Evie as I put her to bed without worrying about my final nightly session. I long for a day that isn't constantly interrupted by pumping and for nipples that don't look like they belong on a gorilla. But as much as I hate pumping, as much as I want to be free from it, and as much as I know that I have done well to give her two years of mommy milk, I can't quite let go. Evie eats better now and drinks cow's milk happily, and I have two solid months' worth of milk in the freezer. But I still want to cry at the thought of watching my supply dwindle. 

Tonight was December 1 (as of this writing), and as I had promised myself, I cut my evening pump to 20 minutes. Following my plan, I will be down to a morning and evening session only by February, a pattern that I can't bring myself to set an end date for. I'm not sure why this is so hard for me, except that pumping and feeding my daughter has been nearly all-consuming since she was born. It has been the source of much frustration, sadness, and anxiety, and none of the joy that I expected to associate with nourishing my baby. 

In some ways, our breastfeeding difficulties have defined motherhood for me. Closing this chapter means finally surrendering something I had waited for since I "nursed" my dolls as a child. It took me almost a year to come to terms with having lost that nursing relationship, and I still feel sad about it sometimes, so I suppose it will take me some time to let go of breastfeeding itself. But there are other stages and mothering challenges ahead, and as they say in one of my favorite musicals, "... everything in life is only for now." 

— Melissa (melissab)

(Do you have concerns or joys to share about breastfeeding? Are you looking for advice about weaning? Visit our Breastfeeding forum at TriadMommies today!)
Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Happy Hanukkah!

On behalf of all of us at TriadMommies, Happy Hanukkah to you and yours!
Monday, December 19, 2011

Menu Monday: World's Easiest Fudge

Ingredients
1 can of frosting (not whipped)
1 1/2 bags of chocolate chips

Instructions
  1. Combine both ingredients in a microwave-safe bowl. 
  2. Heat on high for 2 minutes. 
  3. Pour into 8-inch by 8-inch baking dish.
  4. Cool completely and cut into 1-inch squares. 
  5. Serve.
Note: Try using different flavors of frosting and chips, such as strawberry frosting with mint chips, or vanilla frosting with peanut butter chips. You can even add nuts.

Submitted to The Mommies Network recipe database by Theresa.
Friday, December 16, 2011

This Week With the Mommies

Check out all the fun events our mommies have lined up next week! For details and to RSVP, visit the calendar. We look forward to seeing you soon!

Monday, 12/19: 

Mocha Monday coffee meetup at Earth Fare in Greensboro
Blended Families dinner at Little Vito's Pizza in Kernersville


Tuesday, 12/20:
MNO and Secret Santa at Panera in Greensboro


Wednesday, 12/21:

Let's Move! meetup at Allen Jay Recreation Center in High Point


Thursday, 12/22:
Children With Special Needs ornament exchange at McDonald's in Greensboro
 
Friday, 12/23:
MNI (wrapping presents) in Winston-Salem




Thursday, December 15, 2011

Forum Focus: Domestic Goddesses

Have you ever visited the Domestic Goddesses forum on TriadMommies? It is a great resource if you have a question about cooking, cleaning, decorating, party planning, etc. Around the holidays, the forum features a wealth of topics, from when to start baking to when to put up the Christmas tree. There are also recipes galore, from "The BEST Holiday Treat Ever!!" to "Reindeer Food." If you have never visited the Domestic Goddesses forum before, now is a great time to give it a glance.  

— Patty (mommylovesra)
Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Wordless Wednesday: O Christmas Tree

Photo by Patty (mommylovesra)



Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Cloth Is Cool: An Intro to Cloth Diapers

Photo by Charlie Banana
OK, so that was a really cheesy title, but I do think cloth diapering is cool. Not only is it cool, but it's also good for your baby, good for the Earth, and even good for the wallet. Have I gotten your attention yet? 

Did I mention how cute a baby looks with a fluffy butt? Now, I know cloth diapers aren't for everyone. There are a number of situations in which a family may want to cloth diaper, but cannot. However, the biggest objection I hear is that poop is too messy with cloth diapers. With 100 percent certainty, I can tell you that poop is much messier and has to be handled more often (blowouts, stained clothes, etc.) when a baby is in a disposable diaper.

I knew I wanted to cloth-diaper our baby, but when I found out I did not have to use diaper pins, I was sold! If I've piqued your curiosity, and you're still reading, I'll tell you more about the cloth-diapering options available. There are four main types of cloth diapers: prefolds, fitteds or contours, pockets, and all-in-ones. There is also an All-In-Two or hybrid, but I'll save those for another blog post. In a nutshell, I'll tell you about each type.

Prefold (with a cover): This is a flat diaper, which is folded and secured with a Snappi fastener or pins, then covered with a waterproof cover or wrap. These are great for all ages of babies and contain newborn messes very well. Covers only need to be washed when soiled. Covers may be made of a special breathable, yet waterproof, fabric called polyurethane-laminated cloth (PUL) or out of wool.

Fitted or contour (with a cover): Fitted diapers are sized, contoured, and fitted to baby's shape with elasticized waist and leg openings. These diapers fasten with plastic snaps or Aplix hook-and-loop tape. They still need to be covered with a waterproof or wool cover. However, they skip the folding and securing of a prefold and act as another great barrier to hold in messes.

Contour diapers are cut to fit your baby, are less bulky than a prefold diaper, and are an economical alternative to fitted diapers. Contour diapers do require a waterproof or wool cover, and can be used with or without a Snappi or pins inside the cover.

Pocket diaper: This is a two-layer (PUL outer and fleece-lined inner layer) diaper with a space/pocket into which an absorbent insert is placed. The insert may be made of microfiber, cotton, or hemp. Each brand usually comes with two inserts from the manufacturer, or you can trifold a prefold, which makes a great insert. The fleece lining of pocket diapers keeps baby feeling more dry. 

All-in-one (AIO): This is a one-piece diapering system with no pockets or inserts. The absorbent material is sewn directly to the cover, and it is one simple diaper. It secures with Aplix hook-and-loop tape. This tends to be the easiest option for dads, grandparents, or babysitters, and is popular for daycare use.

In short, cloth diapering is cool. And really, it's pretty easy. Interested in getting started? Just drop me an email, and I'll make sure you love your cloth-diapering journey.

— Sheresa (slacey) is the co-owner of All About Baby Boutique, which will open its doors Jan. 3, 2012. She is very passionate about cloth diapering and better-for-baby products. She blogs to educate, inspire, and relate with our moms. Read more blog posts at It's All About Baby!

(Would you like to chat with other moms about cloth diapers and other natural-living topics? Visit the Natural Living & Attachment Parenting forum at TriadMommies!)


Monday, December 12, 2011

Menu Monday: Lentil Sausage Soup

Ingredients
2 pounds fresh ground sausage (Italian, sage, etc.)
3 diced carrots
3 diced stalks of celery
1 large onion
4 cups beef or chicken stock (I prefer beef stock)
2 tablespoons minced fresh garlic
1/2 pound or more of chopped kale or other dark greens
2 teaspoons thyme (I use half ground, half leaves. If you use fresh it would probably be about 2 tablespoons chopped.)
1/4 teaspoon red pepper
Salt and black pepper to taste
16 ounces lentils (I mix green and brown)

Instructions
  1. Brown sausage, breaking up large clumps.
  2. Drain.
  3. Return to pot, and add remaining ingredients except lentils.
  4. Bring to a boil.
  5. Add lentils that have been rinsed and drained.
  6. Return to boil, then reduce heat, cover, and simmer for 45 minutes or until lentils are tender.

This makes a lot, so stock your freezer! I use a stockpot on the stove, but I think a Crock-Pot or other slow cooker would be fine. Just brown the sausage first, and cook on low.

— Rachel (mattysmom)
Sunday, December 11, 2011

This Week With the Mommies

Check out all the fun events our mommies have lined up this week! For details and to RSVP, visit the calendar. We look forward to seeing you soon!

Sunday, 12/11:

Pictures with Santa at Kid Tested in Greensboro

Monday, 12/12: 
Mocha Monday coffee meetup at Earth Fare in Greensboro
Playdate and storytime at the Children's Museum of Winston-Salem
Coffee and conversation at Godino's in Summerfield


Tuesday, 12/13:
Meet-and-greet at Biscuit Factory in High Point
Bounce playdate at Kernersville Bounce House

Wednesday, 12/14:

Tex & Shirley's Pancake Night in Greensboro
Family Night at Rio Grande in Oak Ridge


Friday, 12/16:
Caroling for seniors at Bradford Village West in Kernersville
Charlie Brown Christmas movie viewing in Greensboro


Saturday, 12/17:
MNI (Dirty Santa) in Kernersville
Friday, December 9, 2011

From Piedmont Parent: What's in a Name?

How did you decide what to name your child? Did you choose a family name? Something biblical? Maybe the name you had for your favorite doll growing up that you said you'd always name your little girl? 

Apparently, this year the trend leaned toward naming kids after celebrities, whether it's reality TV stars, names that celebrities chose for their own babies (think Harper, the Beckhams' daughter's name), or even news personalities. Anderson and Cooper were two top names.

Babycenter.com just released its list of the top baby names of 2011, and as always, the ones that came to the top were interesting and really not all that surprising. Sophia and Aiden are in the number one spots, and there is one of each in my son's preschool!

It's always interesting to see the top baby names. This partly because I think as parents, many of us want our kids to have a special name, one that they won't share with half the class (Jennifer, anyone?). So it's funny that after agonizing over what to name your child, you might be very likely to have picked one that ends up on this list!

There are so many factors that go into choosing a name. And things parents think of now might be different than a few generations ago. It used to be the norm to name your kids after yourself, but that's not happening as much anymore. We seem to be more worried about making sure we pick a name that won't get the kid made fun of on the playground, or one that can't be easily turned into a nickname. Some parents are even vetting the names on Google to make sure they're not a stripper name, or have some bad reputation behind them. And then the choice you make follows your kid for the rest of his life, maybe affecting what type of job he will get as an adult!

It's a big choice, but not one of the biggest you'll make in your parenting career. So if you're pregnant now, have fun thinking about the decision, but try not to stress too much. And luckily, there are plenty of places to go for help finding ideas! Here are just a few:

— Karen M. Alley, Web Editor, Piedmont Parent Magazine

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Wordless Wednesday:
TM at the Greensboro Jaycees Holiday Parade

Photo by Heather (hollysmom)

Pictures With Santa

Monday, December 5, 2011

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Sunday, December 4, 2011

This Week With the Mommies

Check out all the fun events our mommies have lined up this week! For details and to RSVP, visit the calendar. We look forward to seeing you soon!

Monday, 12/5: 

Mocha Monday coffee meetup at Earth Fare in Greensboro
Meet-and-greet at Hanes Mall in Winston-Salem


Tuesday, 12/6:
SciWorks Homeschool Day in Winston-Salem
Safari Nation playdate in Greensboro
Diaper Derby in Greensboro


Wednesday, 12/7:

Holiday card workshop at Panera in Kernersville

Thursday, 12/8:
Meet-and-greet at McDonald's in Kernersville


Friday, 12/9:
Holiday open house at SciWorks in Winston-Salem
Homeschool cookie-exchange party in Greensboro


Saturday, 12/10:
Cookie swap in Greensboro
Cookie and dessert exchange at Panera in Kernersville


Thursday, December 1, 2011

On Becoming My Mother

The author (right) and her sisters, who agree that becoming their mother isn't so bad.
(Photo edited by Bob Gunter)
It's happening. I'm becoming my mother. As a teenager, I vowed it would never happen, and yet here I am searching the house for a hidden stash of chocolate.

Don't get me wrong, Mom wasn't that bad. My friends all loved her, confided in her even. But in my quest for alterna-teen queen status, well, she kind of spoiled my rep. She never drank or swore and didn't allow me to, either. She couldn't identify Kurt Cobain in a one-man lineup and didn't know a single Alice In Chains song. Instead of getting my own, she insisted I drive the family car: a 1989 maroon Pontiac Bonneville. She never wore jeans in public, though she did defend my wardrobe on the grounds that I was an honor student, not a troublemaker. She was fine with me finding my funky self; she just wasn't going on the trip with me.

It's been many years since I could pull off hot pink, pleather miniskirts. But it's not just my fashion sense that has changed. I can forgive my mom for going through the roll call (including our dog) before landing on my name, because I do it unintentionally, too.  I catch myself waving at cars in my neighborhood, even ones I don't know, and don't contemplate how horribly provincial it is. There's not an envelope in this house that doesn't have some sort of list on the back of it. Oh, heck, who am I kidding? It's not happening — it has happened!

I cram as many errands into one trip as I can so I don’t have to keep getting in the car. Some days, I don’t even wear makeup shower.  I clip coupons and deny my kids Happy Meals. I put underwear in Easter baskets. I expect my family to eat dinner together and everyone to pitch in on chores. I have failed at making baby books, but I've archived some amazing memories. I never have enough time to finish all my project ideas. I always have time to dream of better things for my family. I married a quiet and contemplative family man with a great sense of humor. I might just have a little mad money tucked around the house.

Yes, I believe I am very much like my mother.  Not a bad place to be.


— Ashley (00tedsgirl) is the proudly frazzled mom of two beautiful kids. Between cutthroat games of Chutes and Ladders and spontaneous dance parties, she spends too much time on TriadMommies to keep up a regular blog.


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